Accentuate the positive

I spent my Saturday afternoon with my four year old at Sweet and Sassy, one of those "spas" for little girls.  Her face lit up when she saw the place. She loved her manicure and pedicure, the sparkles in her hair. But from the moment she went in, she was fascinated by the catwalk and the fact that girls could perform on stage, dressed in sequence and feathers.

"I want to be on stage, Mama" she declared as soon as we entered.

"I know Ame, but you can only do that if you are having a birthday party here. You are getting  a mani/pedi." (By the way, I never thought I would utter the words mani/pedi to my four year old or that there would ever be a spa for girls. Too much!)

She loved her treatments, but I could see her eyes wandering off to the stage. I knew what was coming next.  I'm not sure if it's a four year old thing ora trait she  inherited from her half glass empty relatives, but my daughter tends to find the downside to most of her experiences.  I'm trying to work on this because I believe in the power of positive thinking.  Plus, I think you go through life a lot happier when you accentuate the positive. (How many sappy phrases can I come up with?)

At bed time, I asked Amelia what was her favorite part of the day,

"Going to the spa with Maya and Andrea," she said.

"I know, that was my favorite part too," I replied.

"Yes, but I couldn't get on stage. I wish I could get on stage," she added. Yes, that is the glass half empty girl I love.

Yesterday, she received a gift from her cousins, a Dora Pillow Pet she had been begging for.

"Look Mama, the Dora pillow pet!" she exclaimed, "but where is Boots? Why doesn't it sing?"

As you can imagine, this is embarrassing when she says it in front of the people who so lovingly bought her this gift. But most of all, it makes me sad that at 4 years old, my little girl already finds that something is always missing.  I mentioned this could be hereditary. My husband comes from a long line of negative thinkers.  And, after plenty of birthday parties where he seemed to enjoy himself, my mother would ask my brother "Did you have fun?" and he would reply  Hence,  her father and I want Amelia to break the cycle.

I'm not sure if she'll grow out of it but, just in case it's part of her DNA, "accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative" is our mantra. Ay Mama!


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