RAISING BOYS TO MENtal

I'm pretty clear that I'm a boy mom. I think boys
are cool (and stinky and odd) and a lot less maintenance than girls. My boys
are 12 (Genesis) and 9 (Noah) years old.  I think they are cool (and stinky
and odd) and beautiful and I can't wait to see them as men.  But
something's been happening...

My first clue?: Nearly 12 years ago when I noticed
my first infant's erect penis.  (!!!) I had no idea that that
biological occurrence could happen to a months-old boy. And beyond the initial
shock, I was... enlightened. The light bulb went off in my head, "Wow, so no
wonder
that is SO important to them... they've had to manage this thing
since before they could talk!"  

Thus began my rabbit-hole-slide into thinking
about how to help these boys become well-adjusted men. *Of course I have a
vested interest in helping my boys be the best men they can be. 10-15
years from now I do
not want some woman looking at my son sighing, "WHAT
was his mother
thinking?!"

And so I read books and studies, and asked
questions of anyone who seemed like they knew how to raise successful men. I made my peace with the bloody scrapes, loud tumble rumbles, broken
household items, seemingly inherent chauvinistic responses, body emission
fascinations etc.

But now puberty is descending upon our household
like a... like a... wild, girl-sniffing, gallon-of-milk-a-day drinking, musty,
moody, body-part-obsessed, semi-sweet, peacocky, jerk.  And I've decided I no longer want to think about what it's going to take for them to be men.

In
fact, I am turning the boys over to my husband. I'm gonna sing a song and do a
dance and everything to make it official.

*Stay Tuned

Filed under: Boy Mom, Boys

Tags: boys, manhood, men, Motherhood, puberty

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  • OMG! I love this entry. Welcome to the Ay, Mama family. It's great to have you! :)

  • In reply to llutarewych:

    Laura you're sweet for saying that - I look foward to sharing the week with you all.

  • Very funny entry!!! Thanks for the laugh!

  • In reply to anitarudite:

    I appreciate you taking the time to read it, Anita! You know how it is - Gotta laugh to keep from running away

  • In reply to iamallison:

    Absolutely. And where would this world be without laughs, anyway? I say, keep the laughs a rollin'!

  • Yep...those things happen to boys...outwardly and awkwardly. Being a man is having to serve more than one master, according to the circumstance. We serve God, ourselves, our families, and at times we are overtaken by the God-given uncontrollable (known as: The Libido).
    Boys are just as complex as girls but in peculiar ways. In one minute a boy is cheering for Tony Hawk doing a 900 or Shaun White landing a 720 in the snow, the next minute, a boy is not-so-secretly looking at a girl's figure like a neurosurgeon viewing a surgical solution. We can't help it ladies...we're wired to desire, crave, and look at you - and the evidence of sight stimulus is chemical reaction that happens just 2 feet south of our oculars.
    Don't try to understand it, just FLOW. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, the philosopher, says that we should let our lives flow because control is overrated. The rapper Ice T said that the stock market would crash if we woke up tomorrow with no sex drive. Just part of being human.
    The sad part is that we don't want our boys to have a sex drive until they are grown and in their own house. Sorry Allison, your boys are about to be hit by their little friend (or monster) - TESTOSTERONE. A great friend, but sometimes a nasty enemy.
    It's all good though - rough them up, keep sports, science, arts, and libraries around them and they will be just fine. Awesome article.
    I am so glad that my son is at The Ohio State University.

  • loved this. so much. got an 11 year old boy who is all about his junk.

  • In reply to nikkiknep:

    isn't it crazy?! i just keep looking at him like, 'Dude, don't be that Dude'

  • Great post, Allison! And welcome to the team! :-)

  • In reply to KhadineKubal:

    Thank you, Khadine... I'm excited and honored!

  • Loved it, Allison! Welcome to Ay Mama!

  • In reply to NinaGoyco:

    Thanks, Nina!

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