Done with what you ask...having kids. It's funny. As soon as you get married, people want to know when you are going to start having kids. Then you have your first baby and people immediately want to know when you are going to have your second one. And if you have two boys [or two girls], people still ask if you are going to 'go for the girl [or boy]'.
There are many reasons why women decide that they are 'done' having kids: health issues, age, finances, lack of support, overwhelmed, etc. But putting all of those reasons aside, are you really ever 'done' having kids?
For me, yes, I am done having kids and my reasons are age (I'm almost 42) and finances. If those did not exist, I might want more children, and yes, I would be 'going for that girl'.
Don't get me wrong. There are days when I can't wait for naptime or when I actually don't mind going to work. But overall, Cooper and Cole are amazing and I would love to have more.
It took me awhile to come to terms with being 'done' with having kids even though I always knew that two was our limit. During a doctor's visit when I was pregnant with Cole, I was scheduling my c-section when the doctor brought up getting my tubes-tied. I froze. I couldn't do it. It was too final...too permanent. I was not ready to take that final step.
Funny, just the other day my good friend Kim called me and asked if I was pregnant. I was like...WHAT? You see Kim had a dream that was pregnant with a little girl. The thing with Kim is she NEVER dreams or at least never remembers her dreams. The last time she remembered her dream, she dreamt that I was pregnant, and I was, but had not told her yet. So even though I am pretty confident that I am NOT pregnant, it still shook me a little and also made me feel kind of sad.
Overall, I am good with our decision to have only two kids, except on those days when I see a new baby or a pregnant woman and realize I will never have that again!
If you ask my mind and my body if we are done having kids, they would say HECK YEAH! My heart would have a different answer, but oh well, it's two against one (three against one if you include Ken's vote).