I ask this question because I am so anti-change, it's ridiculous. And this is one trait I hope Cooper and Cole do not pick up from me. So, I am not a big fan of change...nobody is right? Wrong! There are many people I know who like change, embrace it and see it as a good thing. And most of these people are very successful in their lives, both professionally and personally. When I ask my 'pro-change' friends why they are so easy with it, the answer is pretty much the same..."Most things can be reversed, if needed. And if not, deal with it and make the best of it." Simple right...so what's my problem?
I bring up this topic because we are getting ready to put our house up for sale and I am freaking out. The main reason we are doing this is for the boys. We want better schools for them, to have kids in the neighborhood that are their age and to give them more space both inside and outside of the house. OK, maybe that last one is for Ken and me so that we are not tripping over toys everywhere we go.
Moving has been the 'hot topic' in our household for about two years. However, whenever Ken brings it up, I either change the subject or I leave the room...seriously. But now the time has come for me to make a decision...I can't avoid it or Ken anymore. Moving now is ideal for many reasons...lower home prices and interest rates are big reasons. Another is that the boys are still young enough that they will not be too affected by the change...I hope. Plus, Cooper will start Kindergarten (ugh) in a year and we want the boys to start in a school system that they will stay in through high school.
When I talk to people about our rush to move since obviously I fear moving, some people agree with our thought process and others tell me to wait and move later when I am more comfortable with it. When I bring up my concerns about the boys and adapting to the changes when they are older, they tell me 'don't worry...they will adapt'. Will they?
I think about my childhood and although it was not perfect, I dealt with very little change. Is that why I am so anti-change? And if so, should I be introducing more change to them so they are better prepared to adapt than I am?
Think about celebrity parents such as Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt who are travel with their children constantly. Some people may criticize their lifestyle as their children are travelling constantly with no semblance of a 'traditional home life'. However, aside from the money, will these kids be better prepared for life due to all of the changes they experienced growing up? Some may say yes.
There probably is no right or wrong answer here; it's all just a matter of opinion. I have done research on this topic and in the end, everyone says the same thing...it is different for every child.
So what do you think? Any advice out there from the Ay Mama! readers on how to help my children adapt to change. There is little hope for me right now J but maybe I can work to ensure that Cooper and Cole can adapt to many 'curve balls' life throws at them better that their mom does.