Before I had kids, I remember thinking about the stay-at-home-mothers;
what do they do all day? Babies sleep, eat and poop; what else is there
to do with the rest of the time? I imagined it would be something like
Feed the kid.
Watch Oprah and The
Feed the kid.
Put the kid for a
Take a shower.
Feed the kid.
Watch an afternoon
Put the kid for a nap.
Was this a typical
stay-at-home-mom day? Please, this is ridiculous. I was never to
become one of them. I was so wrong.
We waited a long time to
have Lucia. I got married at 23 and Lucia wasn't born until I was 30.
My plan was to work full time, hire a nanny, and continue with my
"normal" life. The new baby was not going to change me, or change the way
I thought my life was going to be. Wrong again. Lucia was born in
September of 2006 and since that moment, I became a stay-at-home-mom.
Yep, I became one of them.
At the beginning, it was a honeymoon.
I loved being with Lucia 24/7. She was such a good baby. It was a
true blessing. We did the playgroups, Gymboree, and lunch with other Mommies. It was awesome. Of course, some days were better than
others, but in general, it was a lot of fun and I was truly enjoying
being a stay-at-home-mom. First steps. First words. First smiles. I
didn't miss a single thing. I felt very lucky, since I know not
everyone can afford to stay home with the kids.
When Lucia turned
20 months, Joaquin was born. It was hard to have two kids under the
age of two at the same time. I was losing my temper due to the lack of
sleep. One baby was taking a nap, the other one was awake. One baby was
finally sleeping through the night, the other one was nursing through the night. I was tired. I was so tired. Need I say more? It was
Shortly after Joaquin turned one, I realized I needed
some outlets. Being a stay-at-home-mom was more difficult than what I
expected it to be; especially after baby number two. I know I
didn't want to go back to work full time, but I also knew I
couldn't do the stay-at-home-mom thing 24/7. This is when I started my
mini projects, the mini outlets that have made me a better mother for my
kids. I am happy to report that between the spinning class that I
teach, the Ay Mama! column, and the
cooking classes, I have found the perfect balance for the kids and I.
I've managed to juggle the house, the husband, the kiddos,
and the projects. I am probably the busiest I've been in my entire
life, but achieving this balance has also made me a happier and a better
mother. If Mama is happy, everyone in the house is happy.
So, what is a stay-at-home-mom after all? Do I get to
watch Oprah every day? I wish! Today, my perspective has changed. I
applaud the Mothers that can stay with their children 24/7 and are fully
committed to their kids. I also applaud the Mothers that work all day
and still have the energy and passion to come home and dedicate time to
be with their little ones. I guess that, whatever we do as Mothers, the
important thing is to remember the following: if we are happy, our kids will be too.
Since I still get to bake (not because I have to, but because I LOVE it!). I'll be sharing with you my Abuela's lime bars. To die for!
-16 oz. unsalted butter
-2 cups all purpose flour
-1/2 cup confectioners sugar
-2 cups granulated sugar
-6 Tbsp. lime juice
-1 Tbsp. all purpose flour
-1/2 tsp. baking powder
-1 cup chopped nuts