Our "Inner Diva": Gotta Love Your Girlfriends

It was a hot Summer night, and my girlfriends and I were all getting
ready to hit the trendiest clubs in San Juan.  There we were, looking
all cute and dressed to impress.  Perfect nails, perfect eyebrows,
perfect hair.  Twenty-something divas looking just perfect, feeling
beautiful, and getting ready to have some fun while listening to an
eighties remix of Alphaville's "Forever Young". 

Yes, that
was then.  Before husbands.  Before kids.  Before real
responsibilities; I mean, other than going to Psychology 101, of
course.  I do miss getting ready to go out with my girlfriends.  Hell, I
miss finding spare time to pluck my eyebrows these days! We are so
focused on driving the kids to soccer practice, getting dinner ready and
taking the baby to the pediatrician, that we forget our inner diva.  It
is so easy to get caught up in our daily routines as mothers that we
tend to forget that we are women too.  Mothers, yes, but also beautiful
and intelligent women.
A couple of months after
Joaquin was born, I went to get my very much needed highlights and
haircut.  There was a new trendy salon in the Lakeview area that was
highly recommended by a friend of mine.  There I was, sipping my
Cabernet, flipping through the pages of a Glamour Magazine, enjoying
some alone time and ready to wake up my inner diva, who had been dormant
for the last nine months. My new stylist welcomed me and we started
chatting:
"So you just had a baby, huh?"  She
said.
"Yes, a baby boy!"  I exclaimed.
"Are
we going to get rid of your high school hair now?  I mean, you ARE over
thirty and a MOM"  She pointed out.

What
the hell?!?  I couldn't believe what she was saying.  Really?  So does
that mean that I have to automatically get the generic soccer mom
haircut?  Do I start wearing Mom jeans too? I couldn't believe that
this lady said that to me.  I was both upset and disappointed. This was
supposed to be my escape, my time to unwind and to feel like a young
attractive woman after being very pregnant with Joaquin for nine months.

"Not to be disrespectful, but I happen to like my high school
hair, especially if I can pull it off.  It is not like I'm sixty
pretending to be twenty-five."  I said smiling my perfect sarcastic
smile. 

This woman was not going to take my rock star moment
away from me!

I ended up getting a trim and highlights and never
step foot in that salon again.  We have so little time as mothers to
unwind and decompress from our daily routines, that we need to make the
best out of those tiny breaks that life offers.  If it is getting a
haircut, a manicure, going out for retail therapy or having a night out
with your girlfriends; make the best out of it.  We all deserve it.

Today,
I prepared a special slide show honoring my girl friends; before,
during and after kids. 

To celebrate our inner diva, here's a fabulous low carb mojito recipe that I got from mojitorecipes.org.  Salud!

Mojito

Ingredients
2 sprigs fresh mint
3 wedges fresh lime
12 drops Sweet 10 sugar substitute
Crushed ice
2 ounces rum
6 ounces club soda

Method
Muddle mint sprigs and lime wedges with a sugar substitute in the bottom
of a tall glass. When the ingredients are well pulverized, add ice to
fill the glass. Add the rum and club soda. Stir very well.

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  • Very true! Given the limited "me" time, you have to make the most out of it... whether it be with your husband, girlfriends or by yourself! Great post! Loved the pics too!

  • In reply to Ileana:

    It is so easy to get caught up in the routine that we have to make time for us :-) With our hubbies too!! And let's not forget our girls, the ones that were there before we met our significant others :-) Thanks for reading, Ileana! XOXO

  • In reply to Ileana:

    I still get p%$$#@ at that hairdresser. How dare she!

  • In reply to abelaval:

    And this is the short version of the story...She was MEAN! Too bad, she lost a client! LOL

  • In reply to abelaval:

    Nina! I love your stories! I can relate so much to them! And the pictures definitely bring me back to the Island. The thing I miss the most post-baby is working out... I feel sooo out of shape! Gotta' get my hot bod back in time for the Chicago summer! Let's see if it happens :)

  • In reply to carolinetilton:

    Thanks Carol! You'll bounce back soon, I know it! Where are you guys? I thought that you were still in Chicago??!! Thanks for reading!

  • In reply to carolinetilton:

    Drew got a 1 yr work assignment in Brazil. I have been spending my maternity leave here since Nov! We are having a blast but tomorrow it ends... before we get home well spend 2 wks in Argentina & Peru. Tomas will have so many stamps in his passport (maybe even a free ticket to PR from his frequent flyer miles)! JA! :)

  • In reply to carolinetilton:

    WOW! Sounds amazing! You'll have a blast in Peru and Argentina :-) Let's get together this Summer! Enjoy the rest of your trip my friend. XOXO

  • In reply to carolinetilton:

    Me encanto que alguien de la edad de ustedes que no tenga que ser la mama de cada cual, les de este consejo "NO DEJARSE IR" , como bien dices Nina , podemos ser madres , esposas , columna vertebral de la familia ....pero no podemos dejar de ser NOSOTRAS.
    Te felicito por todos tus logros como MUJER!!!

  • In reply to rosigoyco:

    Gracias Rosi! Es que es asi, una esta tan enfocada en llevar todo en la casa, los esposos, los nenes, los trabajos, que nos ponemos al final de la lista de prioridades. Pero es muy importante sacar tiempo para nosotras :-) Gracias por tus comentarios y por seguirnos semana tras semana. Un abrazo!

  • In reply to rosigoyco:

    How very true! We all need to take some time to unwind...makes me want to schedule a massage... :-)

  • In reply to KhadineKubal:

    Go ahead and schedule a massage! You deserve it :-)

  • In reply to KhadineKubal:

    It must have taken all your will power NOT to stomp outta that place, that Bi^&h! Love that you threw in the Mom Jeans!!! I totally thought that too! You're fabulous so embrace your diva!

  • In reply to kmccarron:

    The truth is that while I was flipping through the pages of the Glamour Magazine, I saw a picture of Blake Lively and I told my stylist: "She has unbelievable hair! I wish you could make my hair look like Blake's!". That's when she said "Well, she plays a teenager on TV and I think it is time to get rid of your HS hair; after all, you are a MOM and over 30".
    B-I-T-C-H
    Thanks for reading, Kelley!

  • In reply to kmccarron:

    We all know that the stylist was just JEALOUS! Beautiful young mom with a vibrant personality... how dare she try to give you a soccer mom do!! Anyway you're so right about how some quality time with your girlfriends can help bring back your inner diva when it's been sort of lost amongst all the responsiblities of life. Great to see all those photos- miss ya!!

  • In reply to sgraziani:

    Thanks Sarah! I miss you a lot!!! Talk to you tomorrow and feel better! XOXO

  • In reply to kmccarron:

    Truly enjoyed the article and that you didn't back down! After my second daughter was born I went for a haircut at a local place because I had anervous breakdown the day I was supposed to go to my regular girl. I had the shortest worst haircut ever--I walked around with my eyebrows raised for weeks to try to make it not look so short!

  • In reply to Honch4:

    Thanks for reading, Honch! I'm happy to know that someone else can relate!

  • In reply to Honch4:

    Que cierto lo que escribes Nina! Pienso igual...tenemos que seguir sacando tiempo para nosotras! En eso mismo pensaba en el fin de semana....asi que anoche me fui a spinning despues del trabajo y ya mismo me voy a ir cortar el pelo!
    Cari

  • In reply to icruiz:

    Gracias Tina :-) Asi es, hay que sacar tiempo para uno! Disfrutate el beauty! Un abrazo.

  • In reply to rosigoyco:

    Wow, you have very nice looking friends ;-)....

  • In reply to eduardo138:

    LOL Especially the dark haired one, right? Sorry, EOrtiz, Diana is taken!!!

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