Soon after we got married, Ken and I got a puppy named Bosco. I never had a dog before so I had no idea what to expect. That first night with Bosco he chewed a hole in the carpet, barked for hours and rolled around in his own poop. The next morning I asked Ken if we could return him.
Bosco lived with us for 16 years and taught me about something...unconditional love. No matter what, Bosco just wanted to be with us. He loved us no matter what, even when he was in trouble.
People talk about dogs having unconditional love for their owners, and I saw it with Bosco, but for me, becoming a mom took it to a whole other level. I found it amazing how much you could love someone you just met...even before you meet. When I had my first son Cooper, my whole world changed and it truly revolved around this little guy. I loved every minute I had with Cooper and I didn't want to miss a thing.
Then I got pregnant with Cole, my second son, and I was a bit apprehensive about it. How could I have enough love for Cole and not short-change Cooper? How could I feel the same depth of love for both of them? I know it sounds crazy, but I really did not know how it was possible. But sure enough, as soon as I saw Cole, the love was there.
It's amazing, a mom's capacity of love seems never ending, but are there limits? Is it unconditional? Sometimes, Cooper will tell me he "doesn't like me" when he is mad. He will say he "wants daddy" instead of me or he will wipe away (I call it wiping in) my kisses. I know he is only 3 years old and he does not mean it. He is just testing me or looking for a reaction, but some days, it stings a little.
As Cooper and Cole get older and life gets more complicated, that love will be constantly be tested. Kids tell their moms they hate them all the time and want them to go away. And that is considered normal for an average American teenager. But there are some moms that have it much worse, and their love is truly tested.
I have seen first-hand a daughter deliberately do awful things to her mom for years, just to hurt her. But that mom still has hope. She thinks about her daughter everyday and will always be there for her no matter what has happened. Her other children think their mom is insane for still reaching out to the "out casted" daughter. I use to think so too until I became a mom. Now I understand a bit more why this mom continues to be hopeful.
It's called unconditional love and it is not just for the dogs. I do think a mom's love is unconditionally and I hope I can continue that way with my boys no matter what the future holds.
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