Let's talk about sex

Dear Mel,

My boyfriend whom I've been dating for three months now wants to have sex. I don't really want to do that with him just yet, but I'm worried that he might break up with me or think I'm a prude. I know this is a pretty cliche question... I've looked at lots of other advice websites for advice, but I just want to see what you think, especially since you're my age. What do I do about this situation?
-Conflicted
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Dear Conflicted,

Ooooh, boy. Talk about a scaaandal! Just kidding, this isn't really a scandal; I just wanted to say that.
Albeit not a scandal, this is a sticky situation. My honest advice? Don't do it. If you're not completely, 100%, head-over-heels ready to do the deed, then keep your pants up. It's not worth the potential emotional consequences (and physical... Teen Mom, anyone?). Also, another thing to ask yourself is this: do you love this guy? Because if there's no love, then I don't see the point in having sex with him. You should be ready. And you should be in love. 
There's a good chance he'll break up with you if you don't oblige. But if he dumps you like that, then he's not worth it anyways. Stand up for yourself and hold your ground, girl. It's the best advice I can give to you.
-Mel

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Tags: boy, dating, girl, sex, teens

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  • this is good advice, Mel. Something that's good to remember even if you are head over heels for someone.

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