Dear Mel,
I have a best friend who drives me crazy. I met her last year and we immediately became really close since we had so many classes together. She was always very happy and extremely nice, and we never fought or anything. Then this new school year came and she isn't exactly different, but she is a little bolder when she speaks to me and sometimes even a little rude. Take today, we were at a small party and one friend was telling a story. He asked me a question and I answered him and my best friend just cut me off and said, "nobody cares." I was really upset because after the guy finished the story I wanted to talk to him again and she just cut me off.. again.. And said nobody cares. Not only that, but she can be so whiny about little things. She misses the bus almost everyday and can't get a ride to school until 3 hours later. It's like she isn't responsible anymore and is slacking. I still want to be her friend and I tell her that she misses school too much over lame things (she doesn't do anything after school).. I just don't know what to say anymore, and I'm still upset that she was so rude to me today. What can I do to let my frustrations go?
-Frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
Oh, wow. I think you need to be frank with your friend and tell her that she's being a bit of a bitch. It's not okay for her to be rude to you and cut you off like that, especially if you're her best friend. It seems like you're doing everything right, like trying to tell her that she needs to quit missing school over dumb stuff. But there is one thing you need to work on: if she's bolder, then you need to be bolder, too.
My guess is that your friend sees you as a pushover of sorts, so she feels like she can boss you around and treat you poorly. That's why you need to boost your attitude. Stand up to her when she is rude, because you're not inferior to her. Friends are equals, right? Right.
However, if she keeps this act up, then you might want to put yourself back on the BFF market. (Or get a BFF in a can! See picture.) Who has room in her life for a friend who doesn't respect her?
-Mel
Damn.
Oh the joys of having BFFs. This is great advice though! :)
Thank you!!