Saying goodbye to bad friends...

The end of Say No To Small Dose Friends February is here. Not only that, it is Leap Day. So now, let us take that leap of faith and say no to our small dose friends.

As you know, it is the friends that cause more harm than good, more pain than happiness, more regret than hope, and more effort then you want to put with up that we are saying goodbye to.

Of course, by now you are probably wondering how do you rid yourself of these people. To be honest, that is such a simple answer.

Tell them the truth!

Do not be mean about it. Do not beat around the bush. However, do not avoid telling them either.

State your position. Maybe something along the lines of "I'm sorry, but this friendship is just not valuable to me. Therefore, in the interest of fairness, I am severing ties."

You do not have to give them time to do a rebuttal. Do not let them guilt you into staying friends. However, you owe it to them and to yourself to be honest. Let them know that they do not need to depend on you in the future for anything.

Though the process may be hard, you will feel so much better.

Of course, if you not wanting to confront the situation, you can just avoid them. This, however, leads to them still calling on you for support. You still will get that twinge in your stomach when you see their number come up on your phone. Being honest with them should help you avoid any further communication with them. Just make sure you stand your ground.

There is a huge difference in saying "we cannot be friends" and saying "I do not think we can be friends." The first is a statement that is matter-of-fact, and the second is an opening to a much bigger conversation about the whys and why nots.

So, for your sanity, it is much easier to just let them be free and be up front with it. You will be much happier for it in the long run.

Before I let you go today, I also want you to remember one thing. Should a small dose friend come back with a statement about how they feel you may not be a good friend either, just remember that you are cutting them out of your life for a reason. Do not let them bring you down. Do not let their negativity get into your head. Stay strong.

Now, go out and make a new friend today!

 

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  • Nice article. This happened to me and I did just what you said, by just writing a letter regarding their behavior towards me and being toxic to the point where we just could not be friends.

    It's a hard thing to do, but sometimes you must go with your gut and express how you feel.

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