How did everyone do on Day 1 of "Say No To Small Dose Friends February"?
If you are like me and avoided them, you probably feel a little less stressed. We have decided to take away their power to annoy us. We have decided that we are going to deal with them in a healthy, distant approach.
Accept that we are never going to be able to avoid annoying people completely. That is not our goal anyway. Some of the annoying people are family or co-workers, and you cannot escape them. Our goal here is to find a peaceful coexistence with them.
For instance, on the people that only contact you when they need something, learn to tell them "no". It is really that simple. I personally always felt bad for telling people "no". However, I have come to learn that it is a very healthy part of life.
When you say "yes" to something you do not want to do, you get anxious and aggravated. When you say "no", you do not feel that. The worst that can happen is that they do not ask you do whatever it is you said no to again.
All the anxiety and aggravation you are saving from not having to do stuff you do not want to will help lower your stress level. With a lower stress level, you will put yourself at a lower risk of high blood pressure and other diseases related to stress.
Plus, do not feel scared that they may talk about you behind your back because you are not helping them. If they are the type of person to do that, then they are probably doing it whether you are helping them or not. So, at least if you do not actually help them, they now have a valid reason to discuss you to other people.
It is also a fair assumption that if you have noticed their horrible personality traits, the people they are badmouthing you to have also noticed them. This means the things they are saying about you, have no validity. So, why worry about what is going on.
Tomorrow, we will talk about how to recast people in your life. I hope you join me.
Tags: Hospitality, Opinion, Rants, Relationships, Social, Thinking, Thoughts
