Say No To Small Dose Friends February – Week 2

So today starts week 2 of "Say No To Small Does Friends February". I just wanted to check in and see how everybody is doing. I know that I am learning to say "no" to people. This really helps make life a bit easier. When the friends we are working to avoid want something, just tell them simply "no". It really is a stress relief.

I think it is now time that we start focusing on who we are still hanging around. While I think that most people have value, I do think that some people are just bad friends.

If you find yourself with a bad friend, you have to let them go. Even if you do not immediately have someone to replace them with, you just have to be an adult and send them on their way.

So today's question is, "Do you have more friends that you need to replace?"

Besides having the friends that take advantage of you, do you have friends that you need to get rid of for other reasons?

Maybe you have that negative person that always brings you down. You know who I am talking about. That one person that no matter what you say, they can make it bad.

Are you letting the negative person have an influence on your attitude?

You may not realize it, but that negative person may be holding you back because they are giving you doubt in your abilities to do something.

Of course, before you go to just cutting people out of your life, bring to light that what they do annoys you. I do believe that some people do not realize how they are perceived by others.

I myself can come across as "The Baby". This is a personality trait where people seem to think it is either my way or the highway.

While I am very specific about things that I like and things that I do not like, I am still flexible though. For example, I may not want to go shopping with you, but I will. However, I hate going to Wal-Mart, so I may refuse to go there.

I have had people point out to me in the past, that sometimes how I decline an invitation makes it sound as if I was appauled to be asked in the first place. I started working on this trait, and now I find myself more available to do more things. I have even found a few things that I enjoy doing that I did not once.

So, cut the bad friends out of your life; however, tell them why first. On the off chance that they did not they are negative, you may make them reevaluate themselves. If not, then it is time to let them go.

What reasons do you have that you need to let people go?

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  • I finally had to unsubscribe from a few "friends'" feeds to ease my stress and frustration levels. I also actually "unliked" some Facebook pages because they were getting too weird.

    I don't know when I will defriend these people, but it's a possibility before too long. I think I'm waiting until THEY defriend ME.

  • Holly,

    I know what you mean. Sometimes it's hard to defriend people. One thing I actually did after my breakup was delete almost everyone on Facebook. This required them to add me back or me to add them back. In other words, it required effort to be friends.

  • Great way to handle a breakup, actually. And yeah, it is really difficult to defriend people. I couldn't even defriend my brother after he was trying to convince me that my dad wasn't actually nucking futs and that I should just go back and be abused some more (okay, he didn't actually say that, but that is what he wanted me to do)--I just restricted him a lot so he couldn't see very much of my profile. And therefore, he couldn't tell me how wrong I was.

    He did the dirty work of defriending me, instead, a few months later. Just as well.

    I might also add to the list of advice on how to deal with people you want to avoid--block them entirely on Facebook. As soon as I found out my mom was on FB, I blocked her so she can't find me. It avoids awkwardness of having to say "no" in some cases. You can even block people based on their email addresses--so whenever they do decide to join FB, they're automatically blocked from ever finding you.

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