our song is a slamming screen door



One of my favorite pasttimes in middle school was making mix tapes. Not the easy task of dragging and dropping songs on Itunes, mind you, but frantic scrambling to the radio to press record on the waiting tape in hopes of capturing the latest song I was obsessed with. And I will be darned if I could not figure out the perfect timing to cut off the DJ at the right second. Since then, I have become a bit of a mix tape snob simply because of the embarrassing amount of hours I have put into the final product. And from the second I started dating, forget about diamonds or pearls--if a boy gives me a mix of songs that reminds him of me, I am putty. (Except for ex in college who mixed a CD that included the completely-sincere-no-irony-intended addition of Boyz II Men's "I'll Make Love to You". What's the opposite of putty?).

So naturally, the buck-toothed, adolescent-girl-who-used-to-yell-at-DJ's-to-stop-talking-before-the-song-ends in me loves the act of the mix tape coming to fruition in the form of the first dance of couples at their weddings. When I get married I am hoping there is a natural selection that falls into place--a song that means something to my fiance and I for whatever reason that isn't embarrassing to dance to in front of a crowd of people (when couples have to dance to those "in between" songs that aren't quite fast or slow, it's awesomely awkward). As I got to thinking about this, I realized two things:

1. My boyfriend and I have a selection of songs that I think we could say are "our" songs (even without discussing it), but no one winner stands out

2. The past list of "songs" I have shared with exes runs the gamut from endearingly nostalgic to downright mortifying. Here's a sample:

  • "El Scorcho" by Weezer
  • "On Bended Knee" by Boyz II Men
  • "One" by U2
  • "Everlong" by the Foo Fighters
  • "Set Fire to the Third Bar" by Snow Patrol
  • "Milk" by Kings of Leon
  • and my personal favorite, "Twisted" by Keith Sweat. Awww, yeah.

Do you and your significant other have a song? Would it be the song you play as your first when--or if--you get married?



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