My husband Mike and I have finally finished the Pathfinder Beginner Box, and I'm ready to venture into the world of Core Rules gaming! The problem is, a decent sized gaming group is usually 5 people (1 Game Master and 4 Players).
Mike's normal gaming group lives in Michigan, which is quite the trek if we want to game regularly. Gaming groups are really tight-knit, and usually are all friends or mutual friends before they start gaming. So now we have to find gamers.
Our first instinct was to ask our friends who live in Illinois. We're pretty geeky, and we know a lot of people who love geeky things. Sadly all the gamers we do know aren't exactly nearby, which means we have to meet........new people!
Have you ever noticed how hard it is to meet new people when you're actually trying to meet new people?
The process of finding a gaming group has made me remember why I hated dating so much. When I was single, I tried everything from online dating, to asking friends if they knew any decent single guys.
Whenever someone showed any interest, I would immediately do a ton of internet research on that person, to find out more about them before I got too invested.
Once you meet that person, you have all these expectations, you hope they're everything that you'd hoped for, and if they are, you hope to see them again soon. This search for Pathfinder gamers has pretty much gone the same route.
I've created a thread on the Paizo message boards, made a profile on MeetUp.com, asked all my friend if they know people looking for a gaming group in our area, and I even posted a flyer in our local gaming store (which is practically a personal ad....but more awesome).
When we went to the gaming store last weekend, I even started just randomly asking strangers in the store if they play Pathfinder. When I found out they didn't play, or weren't looking for a new group, I got that weird sting of rejections you get when a guy you like just wants to be friends.
I really thought finding a Game Master (the person who runs the game for the players) would be the hardest part. The GM has the most important role. They are in control of all the non-playable characters (NPCs), set up the environment that the characters exists in, and they progress the story of the game.
It's a huge responsibility for a player in this style of RPG. Most GMs have players that they already run adventures with. To my surprise, we actually found a GM before we found other players!
We checked out his online presence to see what sort of stuff he posted online. Then we exchanged emails with him, and he seems like a pretty awesome, down to earth guy. We're excited to have him be apart of our group.
The only thing standing between us and an epic bi-monthly RPG adventure is the addition of 2 more players! So I will continue reaching out to strangers, until we find people who want to join us. Waiting for responses is the worst!
I'd love to hear from other gamers out there...Did you have a hard time finding your gaming group?