Tag: trauma

McConaughey and His Lincoln Visit a Forest

In a recent Lincoln commercial featuring Matthew McConaughey, we see the actor finishing up a run and then thoughtfully approaching his SUV. His workout has taken place in a beautiful forest. Tall trees. Gentle wind. Sunlight streaming down through the branches. And no one is around. Just McConaughey and his vehicle. As I watched this... Read more »

Confronting Stigma: Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)

Brian Cuban—younger brother of Mark Cuban—has written extensively about his experience with BDD. As a child, he endured bullying about his weight. Suffering from debilitating anxiety about his body, Cuban struggled with depression, drug addiction, steroid use, eating disorders, and suicidal thoughts. He now writes and lectures about how he has learned to cope with... Read more »

Confronting Stigma: Sexual Assault

April is sexual assault awareness month, so I feel compelled to write something about it. But where to begin? Should I start with the three new allegations against Bill Cosby that recently came out? Or with the 15-year-old boy who was arrested for sexually assaulting a woman on one of Chicago’s elevated trains? Perhaps I... Read more »

If “Ifs” and “Buts” Were Candy and Nuts …

In a post on Elephant Journal, Wendy Reese writes about her addiction to making excuses. She describes how her life revolved around her excuse for not “showing up fully” and how she hid behind perceived limitations. I started thinking about this idea of making excuses and the beliefs and rules attached to that. It seems... Read more »

Facing Those Gnarly Emotional Waves

I recently learned about urge surfing. This mindfulness practice offers an alternative to white-knuckling through an impulse or craving. Psychologist Alan Marlatt, PhD, used this concept when working with clients recovering from a drug or alcohol addiction. But the technique seems useful for any addictive behavior or bad habit. Research suggests that suppression of urges... Read more »

Confronting Stigma: Borderline Personality Disorder

For many, getting the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) comes as a relief. Finally, something to explain the mood swings, constant fear of abandonment, and relationship challenges. For others, it becomes an obstacle to treatment. Understandably, working with someone with BPD can be quite challenging, and often therapists allow only a few in their... Read more »

Skinned Knees and Broken Hearts

I fell down the other day. Nothing particularly dramatic. I was trying to step over a parking lot divider. My coat was sort of long and I got one leg over but just couldn’t quite get that other one to cooperate. Down I went. Aside from being embarrassed, I was fine. Later, when I was... Read more »

Meet “The Shredder"

We adopted our dog Owen in 2008 from a rescue organization. He is a West Highland white terrier, but when we met him, we could not find the “white.” Owen had never been bathed or groomed. Our new 11-month-old puppy was filthy and stinky but very sweet. Owen is fairly smart and remarkably not a... Read more »

Thanks for Explaining to Me How I Should Feel

In a shocking turn of events in pop culture, a white, straight male comedian made some offensive sexist and racist jokes on Twitter. I know, right? This hardly ever happens! The comedian in question is Artie Lange who thought it was HILARIOUS to post Tweets describing his sexual fantasies about ESPN’s Cari Champion. The “jokes”... Read more »

Sending Parents to Prison for Crimes Their Children Commit: Oversimplifying the Complexity of Brain Development, Environment, and Culture

On October 20, 2012, 12-year-old Autumn Pasquale disappeared. She left her Clayton, New Jersey, home on her bike at about 12:30pm. She was headed over 15-year-old Justin Robinson’s home to look at one of his bikes. They had chatted on Facebook, and he posted a picture of a bike that she wanted to see. Two... Read more »