Christmas 2016: O’ Come All Ye Cynical

I’m writing this just after returning home from church on Christmas Eve. To be precise, it’s 12:34am December 25. What makes this super-weird is that I’m sitting on my stoop while I’m writing. In December. In a Chicago suburb. It’s not exactly balmy—although 36 degrees after last week’s –0 temperatures is downright tropical to us... Read more »

Debbie Downer—Meet Helpless Hilda

I love when “Saturday Night Live” takes a seemingly subtle character trait, exaggerates it, and creates a character that completely embodies it. Debbie Downer is my favorite. Performed brilliantly by Rachel Dratch, Debbie Downer could take any situation and suck the joy right out of it. Notable quotes include: “By the way, don’t forget the... Read more »

As the Election Dust Settles, This Is My Pledge

It’s been a few days since the impossible happened. Donald Trump is going to be the 45th president of the United States. In this forum, I haven’t written about politics specifically, but I have explored issues that matter to me—equality, acceptance, social justice. These are values that define who I am—and they feel threatened now.... Read more »
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“Fat” Is Not a Feeling

We’ve all heard it … and probably said it: “I feel so fat!” And until recently, you could even register this sentiment on Facebook with an “I feel fat” emoji. Simply put, fat is not an emotion. It is an adjective and a noun. We can even use fatten as a verb. Fat is the... Read more »

Embracing Your Muttiness

Photo courtesy of Buddy’s human, Ellen One of my clients, Ellen (not her real name) loves her dog, Buddy (not his real name). She rescued Buddy when he was 4 months old. Buddy is a mutt. Not just any mutt, but the muttiest mutt who ever mutted. Ellen had his DNA tested and was told... Read more »

Hot Thighs in the Summertime

Everybody loves summer, right? Beaches…bike rides…street fests…barbecues…endless fun, right? Well, maybe not for folks with body image issues. Let’s face it, if you’re self-conscious about your body, you might not be too excited about the amount of skin that is revealed in hot weather. Tank tops, shorts, bathing suits…just the thought of wearing any of... Read more »

All Shapes and Sizes 2.0

I have been a bad blogger. I tried to get back into the swing of things, but then I offended a Golden Globe winner and I got scared and hid. OK, not really. New responsibilities have crept into my writing time (I mean, “Orange Is the New Black” is awesome, amiright?) but I am committing to posting... Read more »

"Crazy Ex-Girlfriend"--Setting the Record Straight

On Twitter, Rachel Bloom stated that those are her boobs and that the dress “pancaked” them up. So while we can point to many other photo-manipulated pics out there, this apparently isn’t one of them. Type your email address in the box and click the “create subscription” button. My list is completely spam free, and... Read more »

This Week in Photo-Manipulation: “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend”

This fall, the CW introduced the prime-time television viewer to Rachel Bloom. She not only stars in the musical-comedy-drama “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend,” but she is also one of its creators. And I’ve heard great things about this show. Critics have called it “smart, dark, and inventive”; “charming, ambitious”; and “crazy good.” But that promo photo… What... Read more »

“Everyone Will Be Weighed”: The 4 Words That Almost Brought My Vacation to a Grinding Halt

Our annual trip up to Door County, Wisconsin, has been as fun as always—bike rides, a kayak eco-tour, hikes, FISH BOIL, Swedish pancakes—but planning for a zip-line outing threatened to kill that for me. We’ve zip-lined up here before, so I thought I knew what to expect. But this year we booked with a different... Read more »