Tag: parenthood

I forget my son is transgender

I forget my son is transgender
I have a confession to make: I forget my son is trans. I remember once, about three years ago, talking on the phone to a grandmother from Washington. Her grandson was trans and her job was to vet prospective members for a discussion board. She was the first person I had spoken to about my... Read more »

Birds, Bees, and Unicorns: An Interview with Cory Silverberg

Birds, Bees, and Unicorns: An Interview with Cory Silverberg
For any parents of trans youth who are interested in hearing Cory answer questions specific to our children, please send me an email and I will share dates and times. Anyone attending may maintain their anonymity and submit questions to Cory in advance of the call. About a year ago, I wrote an essay for Cosmo... Read more »

An open letter to Pope Francis on religion, gender, choice and consequence

An open letter to Pope Francis on religion, gender, choice and consequence
Dear Pope Francis, I’m writing on behalf of my son, and perhaps trans and gender non-conforming children everywhere, in expressing my gratitude for your recent remarks about how we shouldn’t force children into gender roles. I know that’s not what you really said, but I’m choosing to give you the benefit of the doubt. Let... Read more »
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Pamela Valentine reading "Welcome To My Holland"

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This year, I had the incredible honor of being a part of Listen to Your Mother St. Louis. Last year, in Chicago, I came out as the parent of a trans child. It transformed my life in so many ways. It gave me a voice, it gave me a platform to share my story, but... Read more »

I'm having nightmares about my son going to sleepaway camp

I'm having nightmares about my son going to sleepaway camp
Last night, I dreamt of drowning in the ocean. It didn’t start with drowning, but with cooking. Dinner, to be more precise, with an older version of my son. In my dream, we were chopping and prepping for a meal, just like we often do. He asked questions about ingredients, we laughed over silly food... Read more »

Thanks for a wonderful first year!

Thanks for a wonderful first year!
It’s been a whole year! Can you believe it? It feels like just yesterday that I introduced myself to the world as Affirmed Mom. I had very little support at that time in my life and less knowledge. I made mistakes, and I learned from them over the next couple months. I learned how to... Read more »
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An open letter to any parent who can't imagine raising a trans kid

An open letter to any parent who can't imagine raising a trans kid
I meet you all the time. You’re a little awkward, a little unsure, but you approach me anyway. Sometimes you’re the mom clutching the hands of children, less often the dad. Maybe you’re a teacher or a nurse or a grandmother. Maybe you know a child at your kids’ school, maybe he was in the... Read more »

A Love Letter to my youngest on his third birthday

A Love Letter to my youngest on his third birthday
My darling child, I loved you from the moment we decided to have you. You were four years in the making, four years of setting ultimatums, leaping hurdles. I had to quit smoking first. For at least a year. I had to start eating better and working out. I had to save money, pay off... Read more »

Jennifer's Story: Maybe It's Me

Jennifer's Story: Maybe It's Me
October is LGBT History Month. To honor transgender people and their unique histories, I will be featuring transgender people and parents of transgender children all month long. Through sharing their stories, I hope to raise awareness of this amazing population of people who still struggle for basic human rights. By Jennifer C, proud mom of... Read more »
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Tina's Story: My Fifty-Year Journey from Shadow to Sun

Tina's Story: My Fifty-Year Journey from Shadow to Sun
October is LGBT History Month. To honor transgender people and their unique histories, I will be featuring transgender people and parents of transgender children all month long. Through sharing their stories, I hope to raise awareness of this amazing population of people who still struggle for basic human rights. By Tina Madison White, author, mother,... Read more »