Evolving into 2017: My goals for the New Year

Evolving into 2017: My goals for the New Year
At the start of 2016, I set myself 10 goals. I wanted to make the year happen for me, instead of sitting back and letting things happen to me. I planned to track everything on a spreadsheet, failed to track everything on the spreadsheet, and ended the year feeling like a failure. When I sat... Read more »

My Life in Ornaments (or why I can't seem to put a tree up or take it down without crying)

Every good story should start with a pickle. We hide ours on the Christmas tree every year. So the story goes (either from Woolworth or an old German tradition) the pickle must be the last thing to be hung on the tree, and the first child to find it wins an extra present. We inevitably end up hanging and re-hanging this pickle a dozen times the first day, at least, but it keeps the kids amused.
I have a real problem. For the past two years, I seem unable to put my Christmas tree up or take it down, without dissolving into a puddle of emotions. Last year, it happened while I unpacked all the ornaments to hang on the Christmas tree. All the crinkled tissue wreaths and Santa hand prints, with... Read more »

My trans son is a real boy

My trans son is a real boy
The Blue Fairy waved her magic wand today and turned my child into a real live boy. At least, that’s a little bit how it felt, opening our passports. The federal government legally recognized my son as a boy. We danced for ten minutes in the middle of the kitchen. He checked again and again,... Read more »
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'Here in the Middle' Release Day

'Here in the Middle' Release Day
Today is the day! Release day for Here in the Middle: Stories of Love, Loss, and Connection from the Ones Sandwiched in Between. What’s even more exciting for me, is that I’m a part of this amazing collection of stories. And better yet, my story, Shapes in the Cloud, is about my grandfather. The man... Read more »

How I told my friends I was trans: a graphic novel by Jake Valentine

I am born and the doctor says, "It's a girl!"
Today is my trans son’s second anniversary. Two years since his rather incredible and surprising transition story, where he publicly and socially transitioned to he/him pronouns and a name that suited his gender identity. For his anniversary gift this year, I’ve decided to let him tell his own story. In graphic novel. Okay, really more of... Read more »

6 steps to help your trans child during a Trump Administration

6 steps to help your trans child during a Trump Administration
It’s been a rough week for all of us and many of us are wondering, what now? What next? What do I need to do? Following are six steps that you can take, today, to help your trans child during a Trump Administration. Don’t Panic Panicking helps no one, and least of all your child. As emergency... Read more »
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The seven stages of grief for the future of America

The seven stages of grief for the future of America
Shock I turned CNN off around 11 PM on Tuesday, November 8th. I couldn’t handle it anymore. It made my head hurt. “Do you want to go to bed?” my husband asked. No. I couldn’t sleep. I felt numb. I felt punched in the gut. I felt like all the air had been sucked out... Read more »

Birds, Bees, and Unicorns: An Interview with Cory Silverberg

Birds, Bees, and Unicorns: An Interview with Cory Silverberg
For any parents of trans youth who are interested in hearing Cory answer questions specific to our children, please send me an email and I will share dates and times. Anyone attending may maintain their anonymity and submit questions to Cory in advance of the call. About a year ago, I wrote an essay for Cosmo... Read more »

Our new wedding canvas is a tribute to my trans son

Our new wedding canvas is a tribute to my trans son
About a year and a half ago, I stood in front of several hundred people and shared the story of my son. My trans son. That story began with meeting my husband, our unexpected pregnancy, and our marriage. On our wedding day, my son was a month shy of two years old. He had little... Read more »
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An open letter to Pope Francis on religion, gender, choice and consequence

An open letter to Pope Francis on religion, gender, choice and consequence
Dear Pope Francis, I’m writing on behalf of my son, and perhaps trans and gender non-conforming children everywhere, in expressing my gratitude for your recent remarks about how we shouldn’t force children into gender roles. I know that’s not what you really said, but I’m choosing to give you the benefit of the doubt. Let... Read more »