Archive for June 2015

Reaffirmed Mom of an Amazing Child

Reaffirmed Mom of an Amazing Child
Two months ago, I began my journey as a blogger, listing all the things that I am: mother, wife, teacher, friend. I laid out the story that I planned to tell my readers. Not my son’s story, but a mother’s story. My story. The story of a mother who has struggled and come to terms... Read more »

What Marriage Equality Means for My Son

What Marriage Equality Means for My Son
“I’m gay,” Jake announced to me one day, while we were sitting in the living room. Of course, we were doing something completely unrelated to this sudden and unexplained announcement. “You are?” I asked casually, hoping I didn’t sound anything other than innocently curious. I had no mixed feelings about this whatsoever. I have always... Read more »

Dear Family: Our Coming Out Letter

Dear Family: Our Coming Out Letter
All parents of transgender children eventually have to share, at the very least, with their closest friends and family.  Some choose to do it in a big, grand gesture, on Facebook or at a party.  And I applaud the courage of those families, because that takes a lot of guts.  We chose to send a... Read more »
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The Family Planner: Blogapalooz-Hour Volume XXI

The Family Planner: Blogapalooz-Hour Volume XXI
Since as long as I can remember, I’ve been the Family Planner. You know that person that’s an integral part of every family, the one that takes the time and the effort to contact each and every other member of the family, in order to arrange special occasions. Special Occasions. Grab Bags. Surprise Birthday Parties.... Read more »

Just "Okay": The Father's Day Edition

Just "Okay": The Father's Day Edition
JR took my hand where it rested in my lap and squeezed.  I glanced at him, but he was looking straight ahead.  I wanted to ask him what he was thinking, what he was feeling.  I wanted to demand to know if he even cared at all or had given any thought to the whole... Read more »

What Seems to be the Problem? A Visit to the Doctor

What Seems to be the Problem? A Visit to the Doctor
For being nearly full, the waiting room was remarkably quiet. A cough or a sniffle, the sound of a wrapper being opened or a mother shushing her children. Jake sat across the room, slumped down in his chair while a teenager played on a phone beside him. I’d forgotten to bring a book or an... Read more »
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Portrait of a Transgender Child: Part Five

The Finishing Touches: Part Five As each year passed, Jake became more and more vocal. From haircuts to clothes to toys, he had an opinion on everything. I know that there will be those people, because there are always those people, who will claim we were too permissive. Or worse, that we forced Jake to... Read more »

Learning Not to Flinch

Learning Not to Flinch
I love my trans son, but I have a confession to make: It took me months before I could say the word transgender and not flinch. There’s a list of words that make me flinch: Hell. Jesus H. Christ. Queer. Vagina. Penis. The C word. The F word. The N word. I can’t help it.... Read more »

Forget Superman, Jason Robert Ballard is My Son's Hero

Forget Superman, Jason Robert Ballard is My Son's Hero
Jason Robert Ballard is my son’s hero.  He told me last night. “Jason is my hero, I want to be just like him when I grow up. I think he’s amazing.” It started with some throwback pictures, shared in a private group. I showed them to Jake, who was amazed at the transformation he saw. ... Read more »
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Portrait of a Transgender Child: Part Four

The Shadows and the Highlights: Part Four Of course, standing in that supermarket with my two year old, I did what almost every other parent of a two year old would do: I dismissed it. “Oh baby, you’re a girl, you won’t grow up to be a boy.”  I assumed that Jake simply didn’t understand... Read more »