What Lin Manuel Miranda, Listen to Your Mother, and my trans son have in common

What Lin Manuel Miranda, Listen to Your Mother, and my trans son have in common
Lin Manuel Miranda, Listen to Your Mother, and my trans son have absolutely nothing in common. Yet all three were in my dream last night, for a very good reason. In my dream, I was sitting in a balcony of our church, while my son and some of his friends played. Below us, on the... Read more »

I forget my son is transgender

I forget my son is transgender
I have a confession to make: I forget my son is trans. I remember once, about three years ago, talking on the phone to a grandmother from Washington. Her grandson was trans and her job was to vet prospective members for a discussion board. She was the first person I had spoken to about my... Read more »

Trump's military ban on trans people tells me he has no plans to relinquish power. Ever

Men and women across our nation today woke up to find that their president banned them from military service. The 45th president of the United States banned trans individuals from serving in the military. On Twitter. He claims that the military cannot be “…burdened with the tremendous medical costs and disruption” that a trans person... Read more »
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Musings from a forty year old on her birthday

Musings from a forty year old on her birthday
I don’t do birthdays. Anyone who knows me has heard me say that. I don’t do birthday parties or celebrations. I avoid planning birthday get togethers in my own honor. Even my husband knows, do not plan a surprise for me. But this year is different, this year is big. Capital B I G, big.... Read more »

10 things people want to know about my trans son

10 things people want to know about my trans son
I recently received a Voices of the Year for #Blogher17 and had the opportunity to present my essay on stage. Being visible provides me with a platform to educate others, but I realized that many of the same questions kept coming up. Obviously, I’ve written about nearly all of them at least once. And obviously,... Read more »

The Do's and Don'ts of being an Ally to Parents of Trans Kids

The Do's and Don'ts of being an Ally to Parents of Trans Kids
I get asked a lot of questions about my trans son, by friends and strangers alike. Mostly because I’m visible and willing to share. Partly because people are curious. I never mind answering questions, being open to educating people, sharing my knowledge, building allies wherever and however I can. But I sometimes forget how little... Read more »
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Texas passing a 'bathroom bill' that targets trans students is only the beginning #notinanystate

Texas passing a 'bathroom bill' that targets trans students is only the beginning #notinanystate
Texas rushed to pass a bill on Sunday evening that is nothing short of outright discrimination against trans children. After a heated and emotional debate, they passed the bill by a vote of 94-50. The amendment added to this bill that specifically targets trans students is being called a “common sense” solution. A solution that... Read more »

I am not the greatest mom in the world

I am not the greatest mom in the world
I am not the greatest mom in the world. I’m not seeking validation, I assure you. This is a statement of fact. Most moms would love to hear that phrase, and some moms deserve it. I hear it a lot. And I do not deserve it. At least, not for the reasons I’m hearing it.... Read more »

You don't need to have a trans child to demand inclusive policies in your school district

Step 1: Find your school district's Board of Education.  A quick google search should bring up the information you're looking for.
I reached out to my district’s school board today. With the elections coming up next Tuesday and a seat being contested by two candidates, I decided that now was the time to make it clear, to both incoming and current school board members that I intend to see a more inclusive policy in place. You... Read more »
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Be Our Voice: To friends who want to help my trans son

Be Our Voice: To friends who want to help my trans son
You tell me to be strong and keep fighting. You tell me I’m a great parent to my child and I need to speak up and speak out. You tell me that I have your support and your love and that you’ll fight for me and my son until the bitter end. But it feels... Read more »