The Do's and Don'ts of being an Ally to Parents of Trans Kids

The Do's and Don'ts of being an Ally to Parents of Trans Kids
I get asked a lot of questions about my trans son, by friends and strangers alike. Mostly because I’m visible and willing to share. Partly because people are curious. I never mind answering questions, being open to educating people, sharing my knowledge, building allies wherever and however I can. But I sometimes forget how little... Read more »

Texas passing a 'bathroom bill' that targets trans students is only the beginning #notinanystate

Texas passing a 'bathroom bill' that targets trans students is only the beginning #notinanystate
Texas rushed to pass a bill on Sunday evening that is nothing short of outright discrimination against trans children. After a heated and emotional debate, they passed the bill by a vote of 94-50. The amendment added to this bill that specifically targets trans students is being called a “common sense” solution. A solution that... Read more »

I am not the greatest mom in the world

I am not the greatest mom in the world
I am not the greatest mom in the world. I’m not seeking validation, I assure you. This is a statement of fact. Most moms would love to hear that phrase, and some moms deserve it. I hear it a lot. And I do not deserve it. At least, not for the reasons I’m hearing it.... Read more »
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You don't need to have a trans child to demand inclusive policies in your school district

Step 1: Find your school district's Board of Education.  A quick google search should bring up the information you're looking for.
I reached out to my district’s school board today. With the elections coming up next Tuesday and a seat being contested by two candidates, I decided that now was the time to make it clear, to both incoming and current school board members that I intend to see a more inclusive policy in place. You... Read more »

Be Our Voice: To friends who want to help my trans son

Be Our Voice: To friends who want to help my trans son
You tell me to be strong and keep fighting. You tell me I’m a great parent to my child and I need to speak up and speak out. You tell me that I have your support and your love and that you’ll fight for me and my son until the bitter end. But it feels... Read more »

Evolving into 2017: My goals for the New Year

Evolving into 2017: My goals for the New Year
At the start of 2016, I set myself 10 goals. I wanted to make the year happen for me, instead of sitting back and letting things happen to me. I planned to track everything on a spreadsheet, failed to track everything on the spreadsheet, and ended the year feeling like a failure. When I sat... Read more »
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My Life in Ornaments (or why I can't seem to put a tree up or take it down without crying)

Every good story should start with a pickle. We hide ours on the Christmas tree every year. So the story goes (either from Woolworth or an old German tradition) the pickle must be the last thing to be hung on the tree, and the first child to find it wins an extra present. We inevitably end up hanging and re-hanging this pickle a dozen times the first day, at least, but it keeps the kids amused.
I have a real problem. For the past two years, I seem unable to put my Christmas tree up or take it down, without dissolving into a puddle of emotions. Last year, it happened while I unpacked all the ornaments to hang on the Christmas tree. All the crinkled tissue wreaths and Santa hand prints, with... Read more »

My trans son is a real boy

My trans son is a real boy
The Blue Fairy waved her magic wand today and turned my child into a real live boy. At least, that’s a little bit how it felt, opening our passports. The federal government legally recognized my son as a boy. We danced for ten minutes in the middle of the kitchen. He checked again and again,... Read more »

'Here in the Middle' Release Day

'Here in the Middle' Release Day
Today is the day! Release day for Here in the Middle: Stories of Love, Loss, and Connection from the Ones Sandwiched in Between. What’s even more exciting for me, is that I’m a part of this amazing collection of stories. And better yet, my story, Shapes in the Cloud, is about my grandfather. The man... Read more »
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How I told my friends I was trans: a graphic novel by Jake Valentine

I am born and the doctor says, "It's a girl!"
Today is my trans son’s second anniversary. Two years since his rather incredible and surprising transition story, where he publicly and socially transitioned to he/him pronouns and a name that suited his gender identity. For his anniversary gift this year, I’ve decided to let him tell his own story. In graphic novel. Okay, really more of... Read more »