You need to get the Friends Approval or your lady parts are going to be like an Old West movie at High Noon. Tumbleweeds.
I was listening to the Brotha Fred's Neighborhood morning show as I do every morning, when Brotha Fred told a story of major Bro Code infraction from a wedding over the weekend. A bridesmaid and groomsman "got along really well" and found themselves back at the groomsman's hotel room after the party. For whatever reason, the six grown a$$ adult groomsman were sharing the hotel room. (Side note: Do any of these dudes have jobs?! Why was this happening in the first place?!)
But here's where it gets really strange. The bridesmaid and groomsman hadn't returned to the room to play checkers. I'm pretty sure there was no confusion over that. The remaining groomsman, however, wouldn't leave their buddy alone for even an hour to seal the deal. This includes a guy who was sharing the bed with the one lucky dude and decided he was going to continue to sleep right there on his side of the bed. I have so many questions.
Although this feels A LOT like the opening scenes of Zoolander, is it possible that this chick didn't pass the Best Friends Test? It seems very possible that this magnificent display of cock blocking was completely intentional. Maybe the guys wanted someone with a little less "comes home with a rando after meeting him at a wedding" for their friend. Maybe they know their guys usual dating M.O. and were trying to protect him. Maybe they just straight up didn't dig the chick.
Remember that you are the company you keep. Ladies, look at your crush's friend group and watch out for these five things.
We all surround ourselves with certain people for a reason. Each friend is a reflection of a different facet of your personality. Good friends are going to take an interest in who you are pairing up with. First, they want to see you happy. If you're not happy, they're going to have to deal with that version of you and ain't nobody got time for that. Second, your plus one and your friends are going to have to spend a lot of time together. They need to get along. If you're smart, you'll listen to your friends. They might not always be completely accurate, but their advice comes from a mutually beneficial place. If you doubt this, you need to reassess that friendship STAT.
I have a few specific people who need to approve of a man before I will get serious with him. Like it or not, we all get a little dickmotized in the beginning. We are not thinking at our clearest. It's a good idea to get a second opinion while you're in lovey-dovey la-la land. My personal "committee" consists of people who I know genuinely care about me, who have had a relationship I admire, who I trust to tell me the truth even if it won't make me happy and who I completely expect to still be in my life 10 years from now.
Listen to your friends. Pay attention to his friends. And fox on with your fine self.
Do you ever date by committee?