Backsliding Onto A Booty Call

I learned a rough lesson this weekend.  One that I thought I already knew.  I mean, sober, sensible and logical Ana totally knows it.  Summer Of Fun Ana, however, needed a swift roundhouse kick of WTF-Are-You-Doing to the face.

Ladies and gentlemen - Do NOT backslide.  As in, don't go back to someone you already decided to leave.

Here's what I'm saying: There was a good reason that you made the intelligent thought to cut someone from your life.  It's not a pleasant thing to do.  Honestly, it totally blows and it takes a lot of effort.  Unless you are a serial killer who has no emotions, this just isn't something you would walk through life haphazardly doing.

Don't underestimate your own ability to know who's good for you and who sucks.  Trust yourself.

Well, I forgot that for a second.

When my ex and I broke up, I, like everyone else in history, immediately got in touch with a few "old standards" to help distract me from the extraordinarily terrifying sadness where a satisfying partnership had once stood.  Guess what?  It doesn't.  All it does is open up the doors to someone who wasn't right for you to not be right again.

I'm not talking about the "unfinished business" guys.  I'm talking about the lied to you about having a girlfriend, was really mean to you, didn't respect you, yadda yadda yadda guys.  These aren't ex-boyfriends.  These are guys you maybe dated or casually saw, but you decided not to go the relationship route.  This story already had a conclusion.

Instead of making you feel any better, you find yourself sitting on that same couch in that same apartment you've sat on a thousand times before wishing you could disappear.  How the hell else are you going to leave this situation immediately?  Really?  I'm letting THIS guy treat me like this again?  It's like deja vu, but a thousand times worse.

To conclude, move forward.  Don't move back.

You can talk to them.  You can be friendly with them.  You can high-five them at parties.  But for the LOVE OF NACHO CHEESE, do not send the "Where are you? Wanna hang out?" text to them after you've been day drinking at a BBQ all day.

I should probably make this post the wallpaper on my phone.

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  • Classic sexual creatures.

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    absolutely awesome post. VERY well said.

  • In reply to Amy:

    Thanks, Amy. That really means a lot. :)

  • I haven't been single in thirty years, yet I got flashbacks from your post! Back then, I didn't have a phone to use this as wallpaper, but it might have ended up on the fridge door!

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