One of my favorite quotes about love comes from Dr. Seuss: “We’re all a little weird. And life is weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.” This Friday, March 2, would be Dr. Seuss's 108th birthday and is the release for the latest Seuss film, The Lorax.
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I've always been a little quirky. The girl in second grade who tied a string around the neck of her DinoRider robotic T-Rex, so she could walk it around like a pet. The quiet girl in high school who would pop out of her shell during speech class.
I used to hide those details like they were a matter of national security. I thought these guys could never appreciate the little nerd with thick transitional lens glasses and messed up teeth who won first place in Science Olympiad. And, the fact is, they totally couldn't have. Don't get me wrong, they all had awesome qualities: successful, educated, super driven...just not really ready to be goofy.
When TDH and I parted ways, I called my mom immediately after as I was crumpled to the floor outside my bedroom door. I broke the news to her. The first thing she said was, "Ana, you have always loved to play. You need someone who can be playful with you." I knew immediately that she was right. We didn't have jokes or games. He would make me feel dumb if I was acting silly or talked about my dorkish past. I felt pretty stifled. I'm not saying that he sucked. There was a time in my life that I believed I was in love with him. But I am saying that we never met on that level.
As I mentioned before, I've found myself newly coupled with [redacted]. There are a million reasons why I am with him and they are all awesome, but among them is that crucial crazypants compatibility. We recite a Hoarders dialogue about pickles, we're planning to go to a dog wedding at Petco and we accept all random challenges...the more bizarre, the better. The relationship is very new, but it's like the greatest recess of all time.
It's not just me. My favorite couples are so weird together! One pair has a special song and dance that they do when they get annoyed at each other. Another one famously wore her (now) husband down until he agreed with her that she is indeed a seal. And they are sooooooo happy and enjoyable to be around. They have fun, love each other and are so supportive.
We are all weird in our own unique ways. Maybe you didn't eat glue in Kindergarten. Maybe you don't still have a collection of Beanie Babies that you know by name and birthdate. Maybe you don't have an encyclopedic knowledge of dog breeds. But to find someone who you are comfortable enough to show your quirks and also celebrate them is something of legend.
Let your weird out. How can you ever be happy if you are hiding yourself? One of these days, he'll find out that you painted a mural on your ceiling of the Backstreet Boys as cupids or that you used to think you could telepathically talk to your dog. He'll either find it cute and funny in a loving way or he's just not worth your time.
Do you and your boo have any "strange" habits?