Interracial Dating: Are we there yet?

I've always considered myself an Equal Opportunity Dater.  I've dated around the cultural map without batting a well-curled lash.  In fact, TDH was a tall, dark, handsome African-American.  I don't find myself confined to any one particular racial attraction.  It's never really been an issue for me.

This morning, Gallup has reported that 86% of Americans approve of interracial relationships.  This is up from a depressingly low 48% as recent as 1991.  (Side note: Something about saying that Americans "approve" of interracial relationships bothers me.  Thanks sooooooo much for the thumbs up, guys...)

I come from an unusual background myself.  My parents made sure that my sisters and I were very aware of the greater world around us.  We traveled.  We participated in programs where we had people from other countries stay with us while they traveled through the U.S.  I went to college overseas.  My two sisters (one older, one younger) are both adopted and multicultural.  Even with all this, I grew up in a upper middle-class Iowan suburb.  My parents are full-on hillbilly (my dad's side) and practically straight off the boat German (my mom's side) from a small Illinois town.  Mixing with minorities wasn't exactly common place.  We almost had to seek out these experiences.

I don't know what race of guy I'll finally end up with.  It's not really something I've even considered.  When I was growing up, I probably assumed it would be a white man, because the boys were white in my classroom.  These were my only options as far as I could see.  It wasn't that I wouldn't have considered another race, it was just that I didn't know of any boys my age that weren't white.

On the reverse side, I've dated non-white men who straight out told me that their family would have a problem with them bringing me home.  I'm a well-groomed, successful, educated, traveled, fun and kind woman.  I'm a catch!  With all my acceptance, it's jarring to me that I might not be accepted back based purely on my race.

Is it really that shocking to see me walking hand in hand with a black man?  Or sitting in a booth with a Latino?  Do people really care if I am canoodling with a Caucasian?  Even within some of my acquaintances, the fact that I date across the board seems to be a "fun fact" about Ana.  I just don't see why it's even news.  To me, it's the same way that I really like tall men.  I don't care if you are green.  If you are 6'6", color me interested!  But, I have been crazily infatuated with short guys.  In fact, one of my best matches was 5'6".  Why does it matter?

With minorities set to be the U.S. majority within 20 years according to census statistics, our world is becoming a much more colorful place.  Is it really that big of a deal?


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  • No, it's not that big of a deal and shouldn't be.

  • I love the word, "canoodling."

  • No we're not. Sad to say. I'm black my fiancee is a latino. We get some pretty messed up looks from people who disapprove. But that's their problems not ours.

  • What do you mean "are we there yet?" That's like saying, "so, these computers... are they popular yet?" Interracial dating is happening all around us every single day.

    I have no idea what you are on about?

  • In reply to publiusforum:

    As you will notice from the rest of the post, it's not "does interracial dating happen". The question is surrounding new a new Gallup survey that states acceptance of such has nearly doubled in the past 20 years. Are we really there as a country? Does the existence of such a survey even just point to people's discomfort with the issue even further?

    Thanks for commenting!

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    Until 1967, interracial marriages were illegal in many states of the Union. Loving v. Virginia changed all of that. Now, interracial marriages are not a rarity. As the child of an interracial marriage, I would say instead that we have come a very long way in two generations' time.

    Take what you can use, ignore the idiots and enjoy your life.

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