Music is a universal language. Nothing can quite patch you up in the way a song can. As you might guess, I've been listening to A LOT of music lately. Let me just assure you, it's been a good move.
Tonight is my Back On The Market party at The Fifty/50. In addition to a Absolut hosted cocktail reception from 8 p.m. to 9 p.m., there will be a 24-ounce cocktail of awesome renamed the Accidentally Sexy for the night and priced at only $10. My heartache is your gain!
While you're getting ready to head to the best night out ever, get your game face on with the following three Get Over Him - Ultimate Break Up Playlists from myself, Creamteam's genius Veronica Mutagh and XRT's legend Marc Alghini. Most break up playlists focus on the sad my heart is bleeding poo poo songs...we're past that. This is the dust yourself and get back up mix. Feel the pain, but use it to be a stronger person. So, if your sexy needs some TLC, this is a no-brainer Rx.
Up first, your very own Accidentally Sexy. I will be listening to this while zipping up the infamous green dress tonight.
Cee-Lo Green - F*** You: Poppy and fun, this song carries a real message. It sucks and it hurts, but you are better. You can't help but sing it with a giant smile on your face.
"I pity the fool that falls in love with you"
Florence and The Machine - Cosmic Love: I've probably listened to this song 1000 times since the break up. Florence's energy demands that sort of attention. There's pain and it's very real, but there is something about the drums and the power behind Florence's voice that makes you know it will all be okay.
"The stars, the moon / They've all been blown out / You left me in the dark / No dawn, no day / I'm always in this twilight / In the shadow of your heart"
The Supremes - The Happening: I grew up listening to tons of Motown, especially The Supremes. When I first started to know that I was breaking the surface again, the hook from this song kept popping into my head. Diana and the girls are singing about that "what the hell just happened?!" moment in the happiest, poppiest way.
"I was sure, I felt secure / Until love took a detour, yeah! / Riding high on top of the world it happened / Suddenly it just happened"
La Roux - Bulletproof: I love La Roux. Greg Kot and Jim Derogatis once recommended them on Sound Opinions for a couple who hated each other's music. It was the perfect fit. This song should be everyone's eyes on the road break up anthem.
"This time, I'll be bulletproof"
We're skipping the obvious Beyonce - Put a Ring On It. Because, well, we all know that it's true. If he liked it than he should've put a ring on it. Let him deal with that.
Hit the jump for Veronica and Marc's playlists!
If you don't know Veronica Murtagh of Creamteam.tv (not to be confused with the VERY NSFW Creamteam.com) and Strangers In Stereo, you don't know music. She's like a song sommelier, pairing unforgettable, ridiculously perfect and sometimes bizarre tracks out of her very well stocked musical memory. In compiling the ultimate "breaking up sucks, but I'm one hourglassed bundle of awesome," Veronica's special brand of kick ass was an obvious choice.
Veronica's wisdom-drenched song descriptions. Read these out loud. Repeat them in the mirror. Daily mantras for the strong, single and moving on:
Successfully getting over a break-up (without having a breakdown) is a multi-step process. As much as you might wish you could snap your fingers to happy singledom, its touch being dumped and moving on doesn't come easy. You need to allow yoruself to be sad, pissed and when those feelings finally pass, tell yourself you're the shit and walk on.
The-Dream - Abyss: The-Dream's catalog of music is a soap opera, in which nearly every character opposite him is female. He exists to spoil, and please as many women as possible. He's crafted a fictional persona of the ultimate Casanova, and deliberately his music is all about him. "Abyss" sees The-Dream in an uncharacteristically dark place. His heart outweighed his ego and he fell hard for someone, for real this time. But she's gone and "Abyss" is the first necessary stage of a break-up -- let the agression and tears flow.
"I'm here to put your heart in its place / Chained up at the bottom of the lake"
Lily Allen - F*** You: This track was actually written as a stab at the British government, but with a title like "F*** You" paired with Lily Allen's snide vocal sweetness and swinging instrumentation, it's a song that will forever perfectly soundtrack the second stage of the "getting over you" experience -- screw you! Sadness has subsided, and your former partner's undesirable traits flood your head. He wasn't all that.
"F*** you, f*** you very, very much/ 'Cause we hate what you do / And we hate your whole crew / So please don't stay in touch"
Toni Braxton - He Wasn't Man Enough: "He Wasn't Man Enough" summarizes the long-term relationship that ends when one partner cheats, but the other is ultimately ok with it, because both parties knew it was over, though neither had the finality to let the other go. Finally free of the weighty air you've shared so long, the upswing begins. Ego creeps in. You're still mad, but under that anger brews confidence.
"He wasn't man enough for me"
Annie - My Love Is Better: Dance pop is widely loved for its ability to refresh and leave you bubbling carefree. Annie's "My Love Is Better" makes you want to get off that couch and get on with life. There's a dance floor waiting for your heels and friends missing your company. Coming home at the end of the night alone will still suck, but stop worrying. This is the time to live in the moment and get out there. The city is waiting.
"My love is better than your love / My heart is better than your heart / My moves are better than your moves"
L'Trimm - Sexy: Silly and fun, L'Trimm's 1988 track "Sexy" reminds you not to take yourself too seriously. The aftermath of a break-up is draining, and by the time you've pushed past the tears and hate, you're exhausted. "Sexy" possesses no deeper implied meaning. It's a lighthearted, surface-level romp of goofy vanity that plays into everyone's desire to laugh while saying, "I'm awesome".
"We're sexy / We're in control / We're sexy / Yes don't you know / We're sexy / In everything we do / We're sexy/ Word"
Trina - Single Again: Who better to kick you over the last lingering feelings and onward to "over it" than the Baddest Bitch, Trina. "Single Again" is a comical appearance in the leading lady of lewd's catalog. She's spent a career crafting rhymes about sucking (literally) what she wants, from any man she wants, and then we get a track about her being single. Anyways, look past the obvious oddities and "Single Again" is the sunset on a long, grueling push to move on with your life. Trina admits her own naivete, and puts forth a break-up anthem. Hurting is human and memories linger. You didn't expect to end up here so suddenly, but it's time to accept that you're "Single Again" and get on with it.
"I'm single again / Back on the prowl / I thought it was perfect / I don't know how / I'm single again"
Marc Alghini is an XRT staple with a strong music biz background from working on labels like Nettwerk and Astralwerks to managing Groove Armada. This dude knows his tunes, bringing a mix of classic and modern with one very clear message...it's over...and I am better.